Amazingly, I have managed to have a girlfriend in the past, in-fact my relationship history has been plagued by epic fails, broken engagements and drunken one-night stands. My last proper girlfriend was with a Romanian girl called Eliza, after an intense holiday romance materialised into a relationship that lasted all of 3 months, which is almost a personal best, before I had cold feet and decided to end things.
Commitment scares me and that was the main reason why things ended the way that they did, i’ll admit when I was on holiday and spending every day with her in the care-free world of a “holiday environment” things were amazing, we couldn’t stop laughing and I genuinely felt in love, it was only a few weeks after that holiday that Eliza has packed her bags and moved to the UK to start her life with me, and I began to worry things were moving too quickly, got scared and backed off.
The day I broke the news that I just wasn’t sure if this was going to work out was a difficult one for both of us, lots of tears were shed, but I felt particularly bad that Eliza had made the most sacrifice for this relationship, she had basically given up her life in Romania to come to the UK and live with me, and after only a month or so, I was dropping this devastating relationship bomb-shell on her.
Despite having a few weeks of being a bit awkward with each other post break-up, we have remained good friends and speak on Facebook now and then, keeping each other up to date with what we are up to. I reached out to Eliza on Facebook and asked her to talk to me about the relationship and find out a bit more about how she felt when our relationship ended…
So what were your thoughts on our relationship on the whole?
I would describe it as spontaneous from the start till the end. It was a short and agitated love story that I have learned a lot from.
Were you expecting us to break up? Did it come as a shock?
I was feeling as if the magic that made us fall in love in the first place has left the relationship, but I did not acted upon because I until the end I hoped that the flame would reaper, at the same time I wasn’t myself doing much to light that fire because of various little things I was disappointed with. I felt that the final talk we had, came as a conclusion of what I was feeling deep inside for some while there.
What do you remember about the day we ended things?
I remember that I finally felt at ease after that period of continuous fights and misunderstandings that we had . I had always loved laughing with u, our conflicts being the exact opposite thing to what I loved the most about us…the fun we had together.
Why do you think we broke up?
We had different expectations from the relationship and for me personally it was hard to accomadate and commit to your crazy lifestyle. It was nice and fun and actually great for a while but I felt like that was getting too much for me and how I wanted to live. If u remember…my choices of me enrolling into the university and finding a part time job, could have been translated into the fact that I was trying to pull out from that lifestyle and gain some balance for me.
What have you learned from our relationship?
I have learned to enjoy each moment to the fullest and that “mistake” do not really exist because we learn something from each experience so we cannot call an apparentelly “bad choice” a mistake because of this reason.
I have learned that when entering another’s environment that is unsure about his feelings even though his love claimants were powerful enough to make me believe in his determination and will of us making it as a couple, the maturity of that person is the most important factor. As you said commitments were not something you were ready for. And as you know it takes maturity to commit. In the end the most important lesson is that you have to always rely on yourself.
How quickly after we broke up did you re-bound with another man?
I have met someone else after a period of 4 months.
What do you miss most about me?
I miss the way you chose to show your affection towards me, and the fact that our time represented a continuous laughter, our jokes being the motive for that awesome fun we had. I miss that you were opened with me and that enabled me to be myself. I miss the way you spoiled me with all the amazing food you cooked for us!
Are you now in a relationship?
I am not in a relationship at the moment.